Ideally, race doesn't matter, but in reality, life isn't that pretty. Social expectations can tear a relationship apart - when I was dating my last boyfriend, several of the aunties at our Chinese church found out and started making snide remarks to my mom (who is much less conservative than most first-generation Asian immigrant parents) and me, ranging from the relatively naiive "Ai-ya! Is white boy smart enough for Chinese girl?" to downright ignorant and hurtful "Why do you let her date white boy? You know American boys not safe. Tch-tch. You think your daughter so smart, so pretty, white boy wanna date her? In five year, ten year, if you don't watch out, nobody wanna date her." (The implication in that last comment is that a white boy is more likely to sexually harass or rape me than an Chinese boy.)
I think interracial relationships can work out, but only if both parties are determined to make it so. Then again, the same can be said for any other relationship.
Edited by anli, 22 December 2005 - 09:47 AM.