I was grounded, I was caught cheating out of my computer work to play on the internet, so I had to finish 5 book reports before I could get back on the internet, you shoul've seen me without internet, not a pretty sight. Now that you've mentioned it, yes, were've you been?
Oh, I thought you meant you'd gotten in trouble with someone online or something, which would explain your view on this topic. Because that's whay my story's about so now I feel kind of duped.
I didn't realize that you meant where you've literally been, or ... something. I thought you meant experience-wise, not why you've been literally away. OR SOMETHING. I don't know. WHATEVER. I'll tell you anyway, because it'll keep the topic going (though I don't really understand how your story gave you a reason to think that you can't trust adults on/with the internet
Anyway, I like to consider my opinion on the subject of online dating an unbiased one...
Well, not 100% unbiased, but pretty reasonable...
People have been using examples where kids can get in trouble through 'online dating'.
I being one of those kids. But I actually wasn't "dating" him; I'd just talked to him online for about a year & we were pretty good netfriends. However, I had my phone number in an away message so my friend could call me or something, and he saw it, and even though he didn't know exactly where I lived & I hadn't put up my area-code, he found out & called me.
I answered luckily, & we talked. It was actually pretty pleasant the first 2 times, & I lied to my parents saying it was a friend on vacation so they weren't suspicious about the long distance, but then the next morning he called & I couldn't answer, my mom did instead. He didn't call again, & I was grounded from the computer, but he showed up at our house
too. It was f-cking scary, because you know, it occured to me at that moment that I might not really know this guy & what if he was going to kidnap me and rape me or kill me or something?
My parents were there to deal with it though, & called the police. We didn't want to get involved so i think they just questioned him & let him off with a warning or ticket for disturbing us & trespassing on private property or something... It was in 6th grade & my parents didn't clearly explain it so I don't really know what happened.
ANYWAY, he kept calling, but on a different number & we couldn't race it because he'd *69'ed it. He was phone-stalking my family & me for 3 weeks until my parents called the police & filed charges, as well as a restraining order. A lot more happened, after he broke his restraining order, but that's another story entirely.
However, because of that, I know
the dangers of "online dating".
BUT, what responsible, mature adults really looking for love & not just easy targets for rape or something, do is stay safe... they don't look on Yahoo! or AIM or something, because that's where pedophiles & 'desperate, creepy, etc.' people lurk... they look on actual dating websites where it's almost impossible to pose as someone else. They need identification - that I imagine would be too tedious to forge for pedophiles that could easily pick up some naive 13 year olds on myspace - that has your name & address and stuff. That's why you don't find big news about match.com or eharmony.com; however I think we've all heard of Yahoo! closing its chats because of all the people trying to pick up underage girls & sharing kiddie porn; MSN closing their chats because a user got raped or something; etc.