How can you even think about saying it's not his fault? It IS his fault. You can't blame other people for your problems throughout your whole life!
I totally understand what you're saying, but you need to ask yourself, what MAKES a person that way? Judging from his writings, I'm thinking he might have been molested by his father, and his mother did nothing to help (I don't recall the title of that one-act play he wrote, sorry). The FBI profiler I saw on the news did say that there seemed to be a recurring theme of him hating male authority figures because they made him feel helpless. *IF* this resulted from molestation (which was mentioned in one of his stories), that could easily warp a child to the point where he had no conscience, and felt overwhelming anger at the world because 1) he hated his own feelings of helplessness, 2) he resented others for their normal lives which he never really had, 3) he despised authority figures because they reinforced his helplessness, and 4) doing something unspeakably cruel would give him that rush of power he craved.
Whether it was molestation, or something entirely different, the end result was that he had been beaten down enough to crave power and vengeance. You can take the kindest dog in the world, and abuse it enough until it becomes a violent monster, killing just for the sake of killing.
So is it the dog's fault, or the abuser's fault for creating the monster? If a child has his conscience beaten out of him, he's just like the violent dog--a menace to society. If a child has been mentally/physically/sexually abused beyond his/her breaking point (and it varies in each person), anything can happen. There are people who can tolerate far less than other victims of abuse, because they have mental illnesses which lower their breaking point. That's one reason why abuse survivors vary widely, in how they react.
Yes, Cho was sick, cruel, the whole nine yards. Even if the family didn't abuse him, though, the fact that they did NOTHING to help him makes them as guilty as if they'd helped him pulled the trigger. In my home town, there was a high school punk who shot at Ace Hardware clerk dozens of times, and everybody was SO shocked. Yeah, right...days later, stories came out, telling how this kid had buried puppies and kittens up to their necks, and used a lawn mower to mow over their heads. Dad didn't notice the bloody lawnmower, huh? Yeah, right.
There's no such thing as a psychopath who just emerges out of nowhere. There are signs all along. It's just that people choose to ignore them. And those people share the guilt with the person they should have stopped, while the problem was still controllable.
And, in fact, I am really angry that he killed himself. I cannot believe it. He did not deserve to get out of this situation so easily. He deserved to realize how many people he hurt.
First off, he didn't care. If he didn't care while blowing people's heads off at point-blank range, do you think he'd care afterward? If so, you're deluding yourself, believing that he thinks like you (and other normal people) do.
Secondly, if he hadn't killed himself, the state would have to pay to keep him imprisoned...what if he had broken out of prison, and killed MORE people? Or if some technicality prevented him from getting a life sentence, and he could get out on parole later? (God knows that, as incompetent as the local police are in that area, they could've botched the evidence easily.) He had to die, so that other potential victims could live. There are some people you just can't rehabilitate....
He got in a fight with his girlfriend, and when the RA (resident advisor) came down to see what was going on, he shot them both. People had seen what was going on, and when he heard them slam their doors he started trying to open them. Which brings me to another point to disagree with SuYen
; three or so guys in their dorm where the first shooting took place locked their door and barricaded it. Not only did the gunman try to open the door, he started shooting through it
trying to get to them. This guy KNEW what he was doing; it can't be accounted to "oh he's just insane he didn't know what he was doing." Yes he did. He is a SICK individual. ANYONE who has so little conscience that they can kill even ONE person has none of my sympathy or respect. That is disgusting. He was treating them like animals
. How can you feel sympathy (or at least the type of sympathy where you say it's not his fault) for someone who killed people who hadn't seen their parents since Christmastime? Who didn't deserve to die?