A love that'll never happen
Posted 11 January 2010 - 05:42 AM
Posted 12 January 2010 - 08:40 PM
Why do you say such bizarre things? That you first say that love and companionship isn't necessary but then say that loneliness is a battle that can't be won?? It would probably be better to say that loneliness is a path that never ends, but that's about as useful as saying that humans are bipeds.
Buddha believed that humans suffer because of desires that cannot be fulfilled. If you remove these feelings of desire, goes with them your sense of deprivation and grief. The only way that you can 'cure' loneliness is to remove the human desire to have companionship. But as social creatures, we're psychologically and physically inclined to seek the company of others. A quick cure for loneliness is to have companionship. But if you are stuck being alone -- the battle is a bit more difficult. It comes with self control: to not fall into a spiral of feeling lonely and despairing because you are alone. This is what I mean - you can't just wake up one day and say, "I'll never feel alone again." It is quite possible to feel alone in a myriad of faces, and it certainly is more than possible to feel alienated from your spouse.
We are corporeal beings and we can only change so much of our lives. Coming to terms with reality is a great part of maturity.
You're free to agree or disagree with me. But I don't want to hijack this thread.
Edited by Landwand, 12 January 2010 - 08:47 PM.
Posted 13 January 2010 - 03:20 AM
Not all of us.
Posted 25 January 2010 - 07:50 PM
Without any strings attached, do you think they'll put any commitment in?
If they know they can have it when they want anyway,
Then you're going to get that label and when men look at you,
They'll only see that, and not a potential girlfriend.
Also, if you think you've been falling in love over and over,
Chances are its not love, but just an extreme admiration/lust.
I think people start throwing the word love around,
When they really really like someone and get butterflies,
But its so much more than that. You'll find so many people,
That you want really badly and want to be with for a long time,
But that doesn't necessarily mean its love every time.
I think the main problem is your naivety.
You like boys who are well... pigs who objectify women,
And then you lower your own standard because you want to be loved.
Sex isn't love, its not even close. You'll just feel worse afterwards.
Theres nothing wrong with you, if you're pretty & funny,
Boys pay attention to you, so now instead of just settling for that,
Aim higher and don't let guys have what they want, when they want,
Just so you can feel good for a little while and then like crap the next day.
DONT SELL YOURSELF SHORT.
I'm starting to think this Landwand person,
Is just really lonely and depressed.
Which would explain why being euthanized doesn't bug her.
(Refer to Evolution thread)
Edited by --e n k y o r i*, 25 January 2010 - 07:53 PM.
Posted 11 February 2010 - 12:59 PM
If you abuse this pleasure, you will reap what you sow... a one night stand and nothing more.
If you think that it is hard for you to find love, when you are straight--- then you don't know that it is even harder to find true love for those who are gay/lesbian.
Their numbers of possibility is practically cut in half, if not more. So don't belittle yourself and know that there is someone out there.
You just don't need to look at every guy and decide that he is the one for you.
Let it happen. When you don't think of it, it will come.
Like an item that is lost, when you want to look for it, you can't find it. When you don't need it or want it, it comes.
So enjoy your life and not worry about love.
And when that right person comes into your life, take it slow and see if he is the one.
Don't rush into things thinking that you are going to die alone, lol.
Posted 11 February 2010 - 04:23 PM
"Once you can honestly say that you are happy with your life, then, and only then, should you allow someone else to share it with you."
Stop looking for "someone". You won't find them that way. When you are content with being single and enjoying life that way, you will find love in the most unexpected way.
I'm not going to say you're going to find it FOR SURE, because you never know. But you have to realize that there's way more to life than having a boyfriend and you can enjoy those things fully and STILL have the best time of your life without someone by your side.
Trust me, I've been there. Actually I'm kinda similar to you. I'm also 18 going on 19. But I've never had a boyfriend and would never let anyone use me. I've had plenty of chances to do that, but I'm not taking it. Because I know that right now I'm still in the process of developing as an individual. I have self esteem issues and a bunch of other problems that need to be taken care of. Needless to say, I'm not that happy at this point of my life. I decided I will focus on working to make my life better instead of looking for a guy (most of them are immature at this age anyway...and are only after that ONE thing) to share my life with. I'm not ready for that. Maybe you think I'm weird for thinking this way...but that's just how I am. I did at one point think there was something wrong with me, and why guys always wanted to do THAT stuff with me. But I got rid of those thoughts.
There's nothing wrong with you. If you're not happy because you want a boyfriend, work on being happy first. Then finding a boyfriend who actually loves you for YOU won't be hard at all because you don't even have to look.
I hope I helped.
Posted 21 January 2013 - 02:28 AM
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