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[B.L.E.A.C.H]

it all started when she got this 4 new friend, we began to drift away from another[can't be seen but we rarely talk much]. i don't feel comfortable talking with her anymore. then she, me and this 4 new friend started hanging out. even if i call it hanging out, i don't really get into the circle.
it is not my nature to talk about my feeling to others. so it is kinda hard for me to express what i want. is she bored with me or what? i get pretty awkward when it comes to this kinda things. she knows i'm not the type of a caring person. but i always ask when she looks in trouble. i never phoned any of my friend if it's not important because i'm afraid to trouble them. she also the kinda person that rarely ask for help. she never really there when i need her. i don't know whether i really there when she needs me or not.
she haven't contacted me in a month. it is still school holiday. she never told me whether she is going on a holiday or not. i'm not really angry with her because i kinda think i was wrong too   but i don't know what made her angry towards me if she is angry.
i can't imagine what i'll do when schools starts. i don't even know how will i react when we meet later on.
i felt like being a soda can where people can use and throw me away whether they want to. i still wanna be friend with her. i don't know bout her though. i'm confuse and don't know what to do.
should i still call her 'my friend'? is she starting to distance herself from me? should i stop hanging out in that circle? should i just make myself invisible?
i know its childish and it's ok if u think like that but this what's currently bugging my mind. i am still 15 years old. our school don't have any school counselor so i'll just share it with u guys.

[Ricadonna]

It sounds like she may be distancing herself away from you.
But don't worry - if that's the case, you deserve better friends.
And once you start school, you'll make some more who will treat you better.

However, try and contact her when she's available, and try and set a date where you two can hang out alone. Maybe then she'll remember how much fun it is with you and try hanging out with you more, or you'll find out if she really enjoys their company rather than yours.

In any case, you can't blame her for making new friends (it's no one's fault you all don't groove well together; it happens), and no one will blame you for doing the same.

Cheer up! I hope everything works out for the best! <3

[cookiemonsta]

You can try talking with her about it. If she's still your friend, then she won't be that difficult to talk with. Tell her how you're feeling when the other friends are around, and no I don't really mean that they should actually BE around when you tell her. It may actually be nothing much ya know.

Communication is very important! Talk with her instead of thinking if she'll still be your friend or not. Thinking about it all the time won't give you any answers.  

[B.L.E.A.C.H]

i see...
thank you both for replying

[walkthroughme]

Maybe she is distancing herself.
Or, maybe she feels the same way you do and isn't sure what to say.
The only way you'll know for sure is if you talk with her about it
However, you said that's not your thing, right?
I say just play it out, try talking to her and if it doesn't work out then that's the way it is.
There are so many different people for you to meet and befriend.
Throughout your life you will have these sort of falling outs with many people.
However, never give up without trying...
I think the worst thing would be both of you wanting to repair the friendship, but neither of you making a move due to shyness or whatever.

[AznFob]

Do not get desperate , thats the key to friendship and relationships. Shes making it obvious that she does not like you , your face , or anything else of you for that matter. I've been through this before , you have to remember your pride before anything else. If shes ditching you for new friends and she doesn't want to have contact with you , let it be. Things are the way they are for a reason. Lastly remeber this "We don't know whats going to happen in the future , so we can only do what we feel is right at the moment.". Humans for generations have been living on that quote and we shall continue to do so. I hope it works out for you two , mayby in some other paralel universe you and her would work it out. Good luck and don't forget your past experiences , for they are the things that make each of us different and unuiqe.

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[hinachan]

AznFob, on Jul 13 2006, 08:01 PM, said:

Do not get desperate , thats the key to friendship and relationships. Shes making it obvious that she does not like you , your face , or anything else of you for that matter.

Being harsh, much?

It could simply be a misunderstanding...maybe she's PO'ed about something she THINKS you said or did.  The only way you'll find out is by talking to her.  If she still acts cold, then you'll know she's just parting ways with you (in a rather rude way, that is).

AznFob, on Jul 13 2006, 08:01 PM, said:

I've been through this before , you have to remember your pride before anything else.

There's a reason pride is considered one of the seven deadly sins: It can do a great deal of harm to yourself and others.  The thing to do is talk to this girl, find out what she's really thinking (instead of trying to read her mind), and prepare yourself for the fact that maybe this is the end of the friendship.  If it is, then just tell her you respect her decision and that it was nice knowing her.  If it's a misunderstanding, then you'll be the one who took the first step toward clearing things up.  Either way, you've acted in a mature manner, so you'll have nothing to be ashamed of.

[B.L.E.A.C.H]

thanks i feel a lot better now ^0^

[B.L.E.A.C.H]

uhm i have another question...

what if this friend of mine sometimes treats me nice but i dont know whether she really means it or not and i felt like they're talking behind my backs and sometimes she looks at me in a cold way...

i dont really feel ditch by them and all... i think she's trying to stay away from me in a nice way... i dont get it why is she doing it? she could just say it and i wont even bother her anymore... she's confusing me...

i think their like a kind of hypocrite... they're being nice but i can feel it that they're pretending... i've been ditched so many times in the past so i know if people are thinking of ditching me... so what should i do? stay away from her? talk to her? how can i talk to her when she's not even talking to me, she just looks at me in a cold way... if i did do anything wrong why cant she just say it... i'll apologize if i really did hurt feeling, but all she do is just hang out with other friends...

i've tried talking to her but to me she looked like she didnt even wanna talk to me... so when i'm talking to her, it was like i was out of words...

then sometimes i think of smsing her cuz i think its the only place we can both talk without any disturber... but i'm also kinda afraid she wont think that i'm serious... should i just wait for her to talk first?

[Boa_Alchemist]

Well i dont know much things... Cuz it never happends to me... But anyway... If i were u, ill just go talk with her... And ask her what really happend... I think u got the right to know why. But i dont think she really wants this to happend... But maybe, u'll get new friends next year... Like i did, i had loadz of friends 2 years ago. But i changed school, so then, i thought it was the end of my world... But then, i found out that there arent only ur old friends in the world... This world is big enough for everyone... So i hope u'll feel better... Im not even sure if i help... Sorry!

[EllaChan]

Hey I know this post was a while ago but I felt like I wanted to help! Well I've felt the same in the past about one of my friends. Whenever someone 'popular' showed interest in her then she dropped me like a shot and went off with them. But once she'd gone she realised how superficial the friendship was with everybody else and always came back to me. And then did the same again. I'd like to say that I just told her to get lost, but I stuck with her. However as you get older you get more friends, mature one's who don't ignore you all the time and that. I mean as you're 15 you may be changing schools soon? I don't know but if you are you're bound to meet new people!